It’s the 21st century, we now live in the digital age- everything is more accessible online. The act of picking up a book to read is becoming obsolete, the notion of venturing out and looking for a specific item you need, has been made easier because of technology.
From personal experience, it’s easier for me to go online to find something than physically go out and look for it. I am more invested in the things I look at through a phone screen/laptop.
Lately I’ve found myself getting more and more frustrated with the way I use my time on social media.
I have gotten used to torturing myself, it’s become the norm. I scroll, scroll, scroll, watch stories, double tap pictures and scroll some more. My thumbs get more exercise in minutes that my whole body does in a day. Even when I’m supposed to be doing something else. Like, don’t you hate when you pick up your phone for a particular reason (maybe it’s to call someone or set a reminder for work) and you end up on social media. You’ve seen a meme on Instagram or a retweetable tweet on Twitter, then all of a sudden it’s 5 hours later and you haven’t actually done what you picked up the phone to do….
Yep. That’s me.
This is a daily occurrence for me and I find that I’m unable to stop. I created a habit that’s become hard to break.
— A couple of months later —
I wrote this post in November 2018 with no plan or structure. It was part of my therapy. By writing down my frustrations about my use of social media, “on paper” (or on a screen in this case) it would fuel a desire to make changes in my everyday habits when it came to comparing my life to others I see online.
In hindsight, the reason why I hadn’t even published this post was because I knew that if people read it they’d ask “Why is she complaining?” Why isn’t she doing anything about it?” “She clearly knows what she needs to do why isn’t she doing it?”
They would have been right: I knew what I had to do to stop the complaining, comparisons and discontent, but I was being led by fear. I was struggling to break the habit.
The plastic surgeon Maxwell Maltz wrote in his best selling book in Psycho-Cybernetics (1960) that it takes 21 days to form or break a habit. This myth was dispelled by Phillippa Lally in her 2009 study “How long does it take to form a habit” where it said that on average it takes 66 days. (Arthurs, 2016)
So, fast forward couple months from the original unpublished post, I’m here again.
In an attempt to break bad habits and form new ones – I’ve removed myself from Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. These platforms were then some of the things that were making me lose focus. It’s been 7 days since I have removed myself. I’m hoping I’ll be able to reach my goal of 30 days off and see good results.
Social media is good when you know how to use it and not let it control you.
I let it control me.
The problem was how was when I was on there. I’d spend hours scrolling for no particular reason; sometimes forgetting things I had to do. Looking at other people in their nice clothes, on holiday, driving nice cars, I would measure my worth by what I saw.
Now, I want to work on being PRESENT, appreciating what I have. I am taking the time to get back to the basics. Rediscovering who I am and work on growth.
I am blessed beyond measure because I am a child of God. I have a wonderful family and a small circle of friends who I don’t need validation from. I am more than possessions and things. I have gifts inside me and this is my season to explore them 😊